How to Vibe Check Yourself for a Better Life
Let’s be real—who doesn’t want a better life? We all do! But here’s the thing: most people don’t know where to start. They’ll try a new workout routine, switch careers, or Marie Kondo their entire house thinking this is the moment their life transforms. But if your mindset is still stuck in the same old patterns, no amount of detoxing your closet or manifesting under a full moon is going to make a difference.
The secret? It’s all about the vibe check—aka taking a good, hard look at the energy you’re putting out into the world. Because here’s the truth: your vibe creates your reality. If you’re constantly drained, overwhelmed, and operating from a place of scarcity, guess what? That’s exactly what you’re going to attract. But if you start making yourself accountable and aligning your thoughts with the life you actually want, boom, magic starts happening.
So today, I’m breaking it all down for you. We’re talking about what a vibe check actually is, why it’s the ultimate tool for upgrading your life, and how to vibe check yourself like a pro. Let’s get into it.
But one more thing before we do: if you haven’t already, check out the Freq App. Talk about an instant vibe check, we created this app to help you tune your energetic frequency whenever you need it. It’s like a pocket best friend when you need a little pick me up. There is nothing like it on the market, so what are you waiting for? CHECK IT OUT!
What Is A Vibe Check?
A vibe check is exactly what it sounds like—checking in on your vibe, your energy, and the overall feel of your mindset. Think of it as your personal frequency audit. Are you radiating confidence, joy, and possibility? Or are you spiraling into self-doubt, negativity, and “why-does-everything-happen-to-me” mode?
When you take the time to vibe check yourself, you’re giving yourself space to pause and assess what’s actually going on under the surface. Your thoughts? Your emotions? The energy you’re bringing into the room? All of it matters. The goal here isn’t to be fake-positive all the time (ugh, exhausting). The goal is to get real with yourself, so you can shift your energy and start living from a place that actually feels good.
How to Vibe Check Yourself for a Better Life
Alright, let’s get to the good stuff. Here’s your step-by-step guide on how to vibe check yourself and start living a life that’s actually in alignment with the energy you want to experience.
Step 1: Pause and Take Inventory
Before you can fix anything, you have to notice it. Take a moment right now—what’s your vibe like? Are you feeling light, expansive, and full of possibility? Or are you carrying stress, resentment, or straight-up exhaustion? Self-awareness is the first step to change. The more often you pause and check in, the easier it gets to shift your energy when needed.
Just this morning before writing this I was feeling overwhelmed. Sam and I have 3 renovation projects in South Carolina that are now (finally) complete. That part is great. However, they have taken twice as long as expected and the contractor we hired to do them did not pay attention to all the design details I outlined. So, the properties are not what they could be. I cannot tell you how frustrating it is to me when people stop at 90%. It drives me INSANE. This is why we are no longer doing any large renovation projects long distance. Sam and I want eyes on everything. We are building a brand and that brand is really important to me. I don’t want anything with our name on it that isn’t the best of the best.
I had to pause and take inventory on myself - do a little vibe check. These projects have taken around 8 months or longer. That’s a lot of time and energy and management. So, I don’t blame myself for feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. However, I didn’t want to carry that energy into the rest of my day. What would be the point of that? So, I got up, washed my face and did a little light gut sha - and while doing so, started setting my mind on how excited I was to sit down and create this blog post to share with you all. I shifted my focus from what was overwhelming and frustrating to what was exciting me… something I was looking forward to. This made all the difference.
Your feelings are often valid, but you don’t have to stay stuck in them if they are holding you back.
Step 2: Ask Yourself the Hard Questions
Now that you’ve paused, let’s dig deeper. Ask yourself:
What’s been draining me lately?
Am I operating from a place of fear or faith?
What kind of energy am I bringing into my relationships? Into my day?
Am I stuck in the past, obsessing over the future, or fully present in my life?
Why do I feel this way right now?
Oof. Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable, but clarity is power. The sooner you recognize patterns that aren’t serving you, the sooner you can shift out of them. This doesn’t have to be complicated, and you do not need to make your feelings “wrong.” We all need to realize that we can always choose higher frequency feelings at any point of the day.
Give yourself a minute to acknowledge what’s happening and what you are feeling, and then choose to shift your focus onto something that feels better. Listing things you are grateful for is an INSTANT way to to this. Feel the gratitude and just watch how your energy shifts. More on that next…
Step 3: Shift Your Frequency
Once you pinpoint what’s off, it’s time to course-correct. Feeling anxious? Breathe. Feeling low-vibe? Move your body. Feeling uninspired? Put on music that makes you feel like the main character in a movie. Your energy is flexible, and small shifts can create big changes.
Side note: If you’re struggling with negative thought patterns, I highly recommend checking out my post on "how to heal your mind". Mindset work is the real MVP of a vibe check. You will NEVER regret doing mindset work.
Two more great resources for mindset work:
The Freq App, of course.
The book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. Her morning and evening meditations are also stellar.
Step 4: Set Intentions for the Energy You Want to Bring
Your vibe isn’t just something that happens to you—it’s something you create. So ask yourself: How do I want to feel today? What kind of energy do you want to bring into your work, relationships, and daily life? Be intentional. Decide the vibe you want, and then start showing up as that version of yourself.
Final Thoughts…
Your vibe isn’t random—it’s something you can control. And when you start checking in with yourself and adjusting your energy accordingly, watch how your world shifts. A better life doesn’t happen by accident—it happens by design. And the more you vibe check yourself, the easier it gets to align with the energy that creates real, lasting transformation.
So tell me, when was the last time you did a vibe check? If you’re ready to elevate your energy and upgrade your life, start today. And if you need a little extra help, DM me on Instagram @jaclynsteele or @beckonliving—I’d love to hear what’s coming up for you.
Live on purpose, live on frequency. ✨
Jaclyn Steele Thurmond